Benjamin Cain: ‘Transcend the Medium’

Today’s internet thrives on polarization. Websites profit when people take opposing sides. That’s what happens in what we call “the comments” on just about any article, especially those on websites that are designed to make money for someone. “The game itself is rigged and it deranges the players,” Benjamin Cain says.

There’s no obvious way to respond to online criticism, especially when so much of it is trolling. One type of response works in one situation, another type in another situation. Often, a writer’s best strategy is not to engage the critic at all, especially when the critic isn’t sincerely interested, isn’t informationally equipped to have a real discussion, is going to harass the writer, is backed by an algorithm that will mobilize an army of trolls, or has fled the scene so the writer would be speaking to empty air.

But if he could give one piece of advice, it is to “transcend the medium.”

“…the writer should somehow transcend the medium that encourages or that thrives on cheap conflict.”

— Benjamin Cain, “How Would a Saint or a Prophet Reply to Rude Online Comments?: The dead end of trying to excel on a degrading platform,” 18 March 2022

 I note: He does not say to transcend conflict itself. More specifically, he doesn’t say to transcend the meaningful elements of online conflict. Instead, he says to transcend the medium that is producing unnecessary, ridiculous, unproductive conflict.

Let’s keep that question in mind. What does it mean to transcend the medium in which one writes? How does one do it?

The possibility of resolution

Min Hyoung Song’s book Climate Lyricism can be ordered in print or read free online in an open access version. (See his tweet today.)

In his introduction, “The Practice of Sustaining Attention to Climate Change,” he writes of “strategies for holding attention” for fiction writers. These steps are:

– Create a handful of compelling characters.
– Put them in a unique situation, and place before them a challenging dilemma.
– Differentiate between characters who are driven to overcome this dilemma and characters who (or situations that) exacerbate that dilemma or pose new dilemmas.
– Allow conflict to play itself out in patterns of defeat and triumph, betrayal and collaboration, despair and hope.
– Hold out the promise that some final resolution is coming.

Min Hyoung Song

We, too, as much as our fictional characters, need the promise of resolution. Otherwise, what do we strive for? And so we have to provide ourselves, in our real lives, with this goal. In our writing, yes. Also, in our lives.

‘And I Will Never Change How I Feel’

You have feelings. You may not want or need to change them. But you can process them.

What does it mean to process your feelings? Here are eight GIFs showing how it goes down.


You have nuts.

A huge sack of shelled peanuts is dumped upside-down into a factory machine.

They are bouncing everywhere.

Hundreds of rainbow bouncy balls fall down a staircase.

You pick them up…

A chipmunk shoves peanuts with the shells still on into its own face, one in each cheek.

You put them in the food processor…

Peanuts are dropped into a large-scale food processor that begins to squirt out peanut butter.

Now you’ve made something different out of your nuts. Your feelings are the same but also they feel different.

A person pours a jar of liquid peanut butter onto a baking sheet.

Everyone has their own feelings. That’s what makes each person unique. We don’t have to completely change ourselves, but we can process what we’ve got.

Cartoons of five M&M candies, of different colors, standing and waving. Source: https://tenor.com/view/m-and-ms-mm-chocolate-wave-blow-kiss-gif-17493325

Eat what you like. People are not gonna agree. Let them have their own nuts. It’s their job to process their feelings. You process yours.

Lady Olenna Tyrell from Game of Thrones giving side-eye. https://tenor.com/view/ladyolenna-game-of-thrones-gif-13347062

If someone else understands it, great.

A giant floating Oscar Mayer sandwich beams up a smaller sandwich from the woods.
https://tenor.com/view/oscar-mayer-food-hungry-yum-eating-gif-21901274

That’s all I wanted to say today. Thanks for coming!

‘A writer just needed to keep scrolling’: ‘Runaways’ by Michael J. Seidlinger

“A writer, a little bit lonely and a whole lot desperate, signed into social media,” begins Michael J. Seidlinger’s new book, Runaways: A Writer’s Dilemma.

Isn’t that how the day often begins? Reading people’s online conversations about books. Thinking about joining the conversation. Drafting the post. Posting the post. Receiving a notification of one engagement. Checking the stats. That’s how the book will be written, correct?

“A writer just needed to keep scrolling.”

A writer may, or may not, have this fraught relationship with social media. A writer may, or may not, occasionally drink one too many beers. Occasionally, a certain writer exists who has never opened a social media account nor a beer can. That is OK, because that writer, too, is also included and is grateful to be seen, if at an angle. That writer is also afflicted by nostalgia and best-laid plans and egg timers and fountain pens and friends to whom they owe phone calls.

The runaways are the itch and the scratching of the itch. The counting of the words. The tallying of the rejections. The reading of Runaways is a meta-runaway.

The reading of Runaways is a meta-runaway.

We read and write to feel seen and to get better at reading and writing. We do that, right? We read and write.

“Eventually, a writer abandoned the books and went back online.” — Michael J. Seidlinger

From Future Tense Books.

The elk had to accept help

So, there have been recurring sightings in Colorado of a particular four-year-old male elk, noticeable because he had slipped his head through an auto tire and then grown antlers so large that the tire would not slip off. I do not live in Colorado, but I heard about this yesterday in the New York Times.

“It’s tough to look at nearly two years of a pandemic head on, to describe exactly what happened and is happening. To talk about the grief and loss and hope without reaching for symbols, for comparisons that might confer some meaning on it all. The elk’s predicament (tire on neck) and its remediation (remove tire from neck) are appealing in their simplicity. Real life, of course, is sprawling, abstract, unpredictable. It’s easier to say “We are all the elk” than to reckon with the bewildering particulars of Covid, quarantine and after.”

Let’s Talk About the Elk,” Melissa Kirsch, New York Times, October 13, 2021

For this elk, there was a solution. People tranquilized it, sawed off its antlers, slipped the tire over its head, then gave it a drug to reverse the effects of the tranquilizer. It woke up and walked away. For a while, it will also be less vulnerable to hunters, as they will not want to shoot it if there are no antlers to take as a trophy. The elk had to accept help. This, too, is a metaphor.